WHEN THINGS DON’T GO THE WAY YOU PLANNED
Dealing With Adversity
Life is swimming; everything is going great. Family life, business, finances, and health are all good. Then, all hell breaks loose. Your kids get involved in some trouble, your brother in law moves in with you, your business partner ran into financial trouble and quits working, you find out you have cancer, and your husband is running around with his brother and leaving this all on you to deal with. I don’t know about you, but this makes me want to go back to bed and stay there.
Bad things happen, we can’t control that, we do control how we deal with them.
So, how do we deal with them?
Founder, The Health Coach Group
Adversity is a temporary condition.
In one year, how important will this be and will you even remember it?
Adversity is an opportunity for growth and learning.
We often learn the most unexpected lessons from adversity as well as personal growth and strength. (I know, it’s easier to appreciate this after the fact).
Share your adversity and your lessons with your “tribe”.
Whether your tribe is your sister, mother, friends or your mastermind group or mentor, share it. You might get good feedback, learn from their experience and help them to learn and apply your lessons to their lives.
When bad things happen, it’s easy to become afraid. Giving yourself choices can take you our of this mindset and make you more powerful in adversity.
- How did this happen?
- How do I turn this painful experience into something good?
- What will I learn from this?
- What have other people or businesses done to deal with this successfully?
- How could this end up?
- What are some outcomes?
- What would I like the outcome to be?
- What do I need to do to make this result happen?
Leave the harmful feelings behind.
We’ve already dealt with the fear. Whatever you have to do to lose the sense of anger, resentment, and loneliness – do it now. Forgive (for yourself), empathize, take responsibility. This is another case where you want to share with a tribe, friend, counselor, mentor. Take advantage of all the tools at your disposal to change your focus.
Mindset Secret Weapon – Gratitude
No matter how many bad things are happening, if we take a long hard look, there is far more to be grateful. Make a gratitude list to change your mindset and refocus.
When you’ve gotten things straightened around, go help others who are experiencing adversity. Contribution feels good.
No one corners the market on adversity but sometimes, it feels like it’s raining down on us. Learning how to approach it as an opportunity and getting beyond the fear that holds us within the storm would serve us well.
What is your best outcome from your worst adversity? How did you get there?
Share in the comments below.