revised/updated and republished from March 2015
Sitting here, sweating in a hotel swimming pool room…. I’m watching an 11-year-old and her 3 nearest and dearest friends swimming at her birthday party. One of her friends is not a strong swimmer and instead of telling her friends …she came up with 3 different excuses not to swim…but her friends wouldn’t let her get by with it…and she is in the pool now…moving slowly away from the edge of the pool.
When we were at Club Med in 2014, I don’t know what came over me. I have been at different Club Meds with flying trapeze many times and never had the inclination to do the flying trapeze. I decided I was going to do it…then I got excited, changed out of my conference clothes and into my golf clothes…went up and watched someone and decided my golf skirt wouldn’t stay up…so I went back to the room…put on a skirt that I knew would stay on and ran back to do it.
That event actually was a giant example of facing fears. I hadn’t really been around people for about a year, sure I’d encountered thousands of health coaches on a daily basis, but no one-on-one. I’d put on weight because I’d been at my desk for a year creating a great new business. I’d never really been on video before, and I’d hired a videographer to be with us 24/7. Not only did I conquer this fear, but our health coaches did their elevator pitch on video, many for the first time. I spoke and got through it.
There were health coaches who tried to back out at the last minute because they became afraid of the hot seat. We turned it into the love seat and now that’s their favorite part of the event.
In business, the first time is always the hardest. The podcast, the blog, the webinar, the workshop, the event, the first coaching call. It’s always something and there is always something outside your comfort level.
It’s okay and normal to be afraid. I can tell you, from the experience with the flying trapeze, and many other things really, the secret is to do it. The faster you do it and the less you contemplate the fear, the better off you are. It doesn’t eliminate the fear until you do it, then, there’s no more first-timers fear. With something like speaking, you just need experience and practice. Join Toastmasters and do it until you’re no longer fearful. My secret is to be interactive and focus on the crowd. It’s easier for me if the focus is on you instead of me.
I’m way, way past this, but I know from talking to you guys, you’re afraid of being an entrepreneur. You’re afraid to be less than perfect, and you’re afraid to make a mistake. Here’s the BIG secret; the more mistakes you make, the closer you are to doing it right. We all make mistakes and when we can accept those mistakes as being proof that you’re trying, you will accept them. I’m not saying (and this is from experience), that you won’t be mortified when the other person on the webinar can’t hear you (Amy Porterfield), or your sequence on the auto-mailer goes out and is too early or sent twice in one day (Marie Forleo), or….well you get it, I’ve made mistakes, things don’t always go smoothly, but we live through it and sometimes, people like you even better when you’re honest and real about it. SO – it’s okay to make mistakes, the secret is to learn to deal with it gracefully and honestly.
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“Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem to be more afraid of life than death.”
I (a grandma) did a flip off that net and landed on my feet, a sweaty, jubilant, triumphant mess.
Although the accomplishment was mine, I could not have done it without the coaches cheering me and telling me I could, and (I should remember his name, he saved my life) the person on the bar who earned my trust and came through for me.
So…why am I telling you this?
We need each other. We have the potential to be bigger, brighter and more triumphant and we can enjoy doing it when we don’t do it alone.
Kora’s friend swims at the deep end now. All the girls huddle and have fun, and I am sure that now, after the fear is gone…Kora’s friend is glad she got in. I know this because she just forgot herself …and swam…with a smile on her face.
I am down to one free ticket for the event. We had 10 people let us know that they won’t be using their tickets for this year’s event and I needed to fill those spots. It’s first come, first serve and 9 of them have been given away. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like that free ticket.
The event this year is November 2-3, we’ll be working with you to build your online wellness membership business model. It’s in Stuart, Florida, very close to the beach and on the water on Hutchinson Island. I’ve got an incredible price for the hotel. We’re going to make sure you have actionable steps, confidence in execution, and a loving and supportive team to back you up.
I hope to see you there.
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