How to Get Help

Physician Heal Thyself?

As health coaches, we often think we can “fix” ourselves and we can’t. We often need to go outside of ourselves to be followers instead of feeling the need to be the example setter.

Whether it’s weight loss, stress, money, aging, energy, illness, overwhelm, well, you see where I’m going. We all have a lot to bear and no one is alone in this. It’s hard to be perfect at everything and sometimes you just have to give up the notion of perfect and accept the notion of “progress”. Slow, gradual, steady, progress.

Kora (13) went to a leadership camp last week.  She was so excited upon her return.  Everyone got to be themselves, without judgment and without fear.  They grew and learned because no one was trying to teach the other or outdo the other.  They acknowledged that they didn’t have to be 100% together and accepted help from each other.

If you’re used to being the healer, you feel the need to set an example and often, aren’t very open for fear they see you aren’t quite as perfect as you present yourself to be. It’s hard to be in that position and it helps to have someone who can help you. We are better together.

Cathy Sykora

Cathy Sykora

Founder, The Health Coach Group

Cathy helps health coaches build and maintain successful businesses that improve the lives of others.

Special Helpers:

  1. Health Coaches – I know, I’m biased, but health coaches can be life savers, even for health coaches. If you can have a coach who inspires you to get off the sugar, caffeine or dairy it can be instrumental in your weight, gut or energy. If you have a coach who points out the things you did right and keeps you in the mindset to continue on with your fitness regimen, your meditation, or your daily visits to the gym, it can truly alter your life. It can keep you off the prescription medicines, save you medical bills, inspire your family and friends and it can literally add time to your life.
  2. Spiritual Leaders
  3. Personal Trainers
  4. Physical Therapists
  5. Life Coaches
  6. Physician – Specialists
  7. Physician – Internists
  8. Business Coaches
  9. Life Coaches
  10. FRIENDS

Just Ask

People love to help.  Just think.  Don’t you love it when someone asks you for help?  It makes you feel wanted, needed and valued.  So don’t be afraid to ask when it’s time.

One of the health coaches in the Inner Circle told the group that she had a small group going through the 12 Day Detox and she didn’t want her person to be alone.  It was so heartwarming to see the health coaches offer to jump into her group to participate and then to hear what a difference it made in the group.  All she had to do was ask.

Many coaches feel unworthy or shy about coaching and a little practice will go a long way.  Get in your groups and trade services.  You get help and you give help too – it’s win, win, win.

We all have different gifts and so, so much to share.  Share with each other and don’t ever be afraid to ask for help.

When have you been able to help someone else out?  How did it feel?

 

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11 Comments

  1. Susan Mary Malone

    I think everyone who’s an “expert” in her field has issues asking for help within it! But it’s vital, isn’t it, Cathy. It’s what keeps us sane 🙂 Thank you for this!

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  2. Tamuria

    It really does make you feel good when you can help someone else in your field, particularly if they have sought your assistance and advice. It doesn’t matter how much of an expert you are, we all need help sometimes. When we remember how wonderful it makes us feel to be asked for help, it’s easier for us to do the asking when necessary.

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    • Cathy

      That’s it exactly!

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  3. Meghan

    We do apply so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Hiding our vulnerabilities can seem easier on the surface, but that just causes more angst. Asking for help is a good thing, and it’s great that you’re encouraging others to get and give help.

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  4. Kristen Wilson

    Super tips.. and in general can be helpful for us moms, entrepreneurs and just busy peeps… great stuff Cathy! We get so busy and control happy that we refuse to ask for help.. this is so key.

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  5. Beverley Golden

    I very much resonate with this, Cathy! I’ve been someone who others always ask for help or guidance and until recently, I rarely asked for help. Although I would trust my intuition if I felt I was being led to something that would help me. One of the things I do love about the team I am on, is we have a wide range of health and wellness experts and we are all there supporting each other, both personally and also as we build our team. The energy of being part of a community cannot be understated. I truly believe without that, we are missing a huge part of what it means to be human. Thanks for the insights and tips!

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  6. Teresa Salhi

    We are meant to give and to receive – thanks for reminding us of this Cathy. Great message.

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  7. Reba Linker

    Such a good post. This is a real issue about the seeming conflict between appearing to be trustworthy, reliable, and having it all together, vs. being a human being and needing occasional help and renewal, just like everyone else. Thanks for your wise words!

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  8. Lori English

    CATHY,
    a great article and love what you do because its between being trustworthy and showing this in a ” buissness’ way and as a social worker or lIfe coach you want to be seen as the leader that you are. Thanks wonderful helpful article.

    Lori English

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  9. Jennifer Quisenberry of The Awesome Muse

    It really does feel good to help. That’s an excellent point. I’m fortunate to have many of the professionals you listed as ideal coaches in my life. They make such a difference!

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  10. Candess M Campbell

    This information is so much needed for those of us who counsel and coach. There are often a lot of “trades” exchanged in the helping fields, but for me I think it is important that we have relationships where we give and ones where we receive. Of course we still have our personal relationships where we do both. It is so empowering to choose a coach or helper who can inspire and guide us!

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